Welcome back, to this special edition of AskFannie. In response to last week’s post, I’ve decided that we all, FIST included, could all use some fun, friendly, fisting information. Now, I must admit that I have yet to enjoy the thrills and chills of having a lover’s fist up my bussy. But through hard work and thorough research, I give you:



AskFannie’s Brief Guide to Fisting
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What it is:
Fisting, for those of you out-of-the-know, is the insertion of a hand into the rectum or vagina. I know, it sounds crazy… but despite everything that your high school sex-ed teacher may or may not have told you, it can actually be quite safe and fun.

How to do it:
Fisting may sound pretty straight-forward: insert fist into orifice. But it is by no means a sex act to be taken lightly. Fisting is NOT ramming a clenched fist through your partner’s anus. To get an entire human fist in their takes a lot of time, care, and patience. I must first disclaim:

Fisting is not for the anally or vaginally inexperienced. It may seem super hot in whatever fantasy fist fucking vision you may have, but if you are not accustom to large objects in your pussy/bussy, you’re going to have a lot of pre-training before to impale yourself on your partner’s forearm. Think of fisting as a marathon. It’s an awesome experience for those who can do it… but you have to work for it. And yes, I use “work” in its fullest RuPaul capacity.

Before you start fisting, you’re going to need several supplies.

  • A latex glove - basically a condom for your hand. Fisting poses very real risks for anal or vaginal tearing if done incorrectly. It’s best to be safe and prevent any potential blood-to-blood contact. Plus it’s not like the fist is losing a whole lot of pleasure sensitivity, like a penis would.
  • Copious amounts of lubricant - I don’t mean just a palmful. I’m talking buckets o’ lube. Make sure to use either water-based or silicone-based lubricant as oil-based lube will dissolve latex. I also advise against the use of products like “Anal-ease” which also have a numbing agent. While avoiding pain may seem like a good solution, pain is also the way your body tells you when “this shit gets real,” to quote Bad Boys. No pain = not realizing your anus is ripping open.
  • Freshly trimmed nails – this is true for all anal/vaginal-manual play. A good lesbian friend of mine let me in on a bit of a lezzie secret: you can tell how much action a lesbian is getting by the length of her fingernails; specifically the index and pointer fingers of her dominant hand. Do you know why? ‘Cause lesbians know that you don’t put long fingernails into someone’s coochie unless you want to tear it apart. So beak out those nail clippers!

The beginning of any fisting session should start slowly and gradually. Beginning with light anal play, massage the region and inserting one or two well-lubricated digits into the anus or vagina. Once the opening has become accustom to the intrusion, gradually add digits until you have all five fingers in the opening. It’s integral for the bottom to be as relaxed as possible. Please note that your partner’s orifice may clench up during these initial stages. If this happens, don’t pull out quickly. Rather, slowly ease your fingers out of the orifice and start again.

Once you’ve gotten the five fingers down, this next part is the most crucial in successful fisting. With all five fingers pointed to form a cone of sorts (think butt-plug), slowly enter the orifice until you get to the knuckles. As the anus or vagina expands to the widest section of the hand, the bottom will moat likely be riding the peaks of pleasure and pain. If the orifice tightens and tries to expel the hand, let it. Exit slowly, and try again. Be patient because this may take several attempts.

Once the knuckles have been breached, slowly ease the rest of the hand into the anus or vagina. The fingers should naturally close into a fist, as the rectal and vaginal cavities aren’t particularly deep. It’s important in this stage to make slow but thoughtful movements once inside. This will likely be one of the most intense experiences the bottom will have. Explore the cavity by rotating the wrist so that the knuckles are able to brush by new unexplored areas inside the body; especially the prostate in men.

Hopefully that was useful! Enjoy the fisting, and as always… have fun and be safe.

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fannie

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